Consumer Reports did a sex survey of 1000 adults and over 80% of the respondents said that they sometimes avoided having sex with their partners. Yes, we all have legitimate reasons from time to time for avoiding this physical intimacy, yet when we get into the HABIT of avoiding sex on a regular basis, it is indicative of BIG PROBLEMS!
The top six reasons given for not having sex are:
1. TOO TIRED OR NEED SLEEP
2. NOT FEELING WELL OR HEALTH PROBLEMS
3. NOT IN THE MOOD
4. TAKING CARE OF CHILDREN OR PETS
6. WATCHING TV OR A MOVIE
As a couples counselor and sex therapist for almost twenty-five years, I have heard every excuse in the book for not having sex and the above survey is consistent with my experience. And from my perspective, these are often just EXCUSES!
Decreased expression of affection, less physical intimacy and reduced frequency of sex are all symptoms of loss of connection in a relationship. In other words, these are effects of less connection, not the cause! And in my experience, unless something is done to remedy this, it is often the beginning of the end.
The good news, is that this loss of connection and loss of passion can be stopped and reversed! If you’re not having sex, it doesn’t have to remain that way! Of course, the solution is a bit more complex than I can explain in a short blog article.
That’s why I’ve created my Passion Doctor website and the core articles about relationships (Click here to read them). Also, if you are truly motivated and committed to change, I offer a complimentary telephone consultation to determine if I may support you with one of my coaching programs. Click HERE to schedule a consultation.
You DON’T have to continue to suffer!