You probably won’t be surprised to learn that many of the couples I have worked with over the past twenty years have had sexual difficulties in their relationship. When doing sex therapy, one simple exercise I have the couple do on our first session is both diagnostic to me as well as healing for them. It’s called:
Hug Until Relaxed
It consists of the couple standing and facing each other and first getting grounded and balanced within themselves, both physically and emotionally. Then they embrace and hold the hug until they are able to “relax” and melt into each other to some degree.
As their sex therapist, I learn a great deal about the couple in terms of how they balance, whether they can each “stand on their own two feet” or whether one leans on another or whether there is a power struggle around that. I also learn how much they are able to let go and exactly which body points they are willing to connect on.
It’s a very simple exercise and it’s my experience that couples that practice this for a few minutes each day are well on their way to reigniting their passion. I recommend that you try it as well and please comment back on how it works for you.
All you have to do is hug until relaxed!
Thank you so much,
Dr. Adam Sheck
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