What Is Libido?

What Is Libido?

As a psychologist and sex therapist, many couples and singles come into my practice complaining about issues of libido. Yes, many actually use that term and so I would like to clarify what exactly it means and how to define and support a “healthy” libido.

The original term, “libido” comes from the Latin, libere, “to be pleasing, to please.” It was popularized by Sigmund Freud, and defined in his context as a “psychic drive or instinct, usually associated with sexual instinct. Freud definitely used it more in the “sexual instinct” sense. Carl Jung on the other hand, [Read more…]

Does Nudity Create More Happiness?

Does Nudity Create More Happiness?

In our world of poor self-image and body dysmorphia, scientist have researched “naturists” and come up with some interesting results: They seem to be happier than most!

Several studies have shown a correlation between being a naturist (being nude around others) and increased self-esteem, self-image and life [Read more…]

How Do I Get My Partner To Come To Couples Counseling?

How Do I Get My Partner To Come To Couples Counseling?

I’ve been working with couples for over 25 years and to be honest, it is usually one fed-up partner that forces the issue and brings the sometimes reluctant other into counseling. This doesn’t always bode well for the outcome, as in general we participate more fully in activities that we jointly choose.

On the other hand, the research shows that the majority of couples enter counseling on average six years after they determine that they have a problem. Delay never helps to create a good prognosis for treating the relationship. On the bright side, seeking support at any point is better than not seeking support.

So how to support your partner to commit to couples counseling? I’d begin by [Read more…]

Just Breathe

Just Breathe

I’ve been saying it for years. Just breathe!

Most of us are in an ongoing state of overwhelm and anxiety from the stressors of society. Our nervous systems are in a near constant “fight or flight” response pouring out adrenaline, norepinephrine and cortisol, the stress hormones that are damaging our bodies.

One simple, yet powerful solution is to breathe. Pause from your day and take five deep, long breaths. It will reset your neural network and allow you to be in the moment.

I’m excited and hopeful that we can teach these techniques to children, so that they may have an early start on navigating more successfully through life and manage their emotions Wonderful video.

I look forward to your thoughts and comments.

Warmly,

Dr. Adam Sheck

Video: Love, Vulnerability and Appendicitis

Love, Vulnerability and Appendicitis

In this video, I share my insights on love and vulnerability, precipitated by my emergency appendectomy. It’s a deep one!

Warmly,

Dr. Adam Sheck

Can Bondage Create Intimacy?

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A number of years ago, I wrote a blogpost about my brief experience in bondage, entitled, “I Dated A Tie-Me Up Girl” which you can read when you Click Here. The bottom line was that is wasn’t for me and that it seemed to create a pseudo-intimacy through vulnerability.

As the Passion Doctor, I have treated many couples (and more-somes) interested in kink, bondage and S&M over the years. I’m not a prude, I’m pretty aware of alternative practices and circumstances invited me to revisit the topic and ask the question again, “Can bondage create intimacy?”

I attended a bondage course with a loved one, called, “Bondage and Meditation” involving the art of Japanese rope bondage.  Now this was more intriguing to me, the meditative aspect of bondage, of [Read more…]

Create A Passionate Life Call 3/10/16

Are you seeking support for your challenges in love and work? Are you wanting more passion in your life, more connection to your life purpose? Would you benefit from some live feedback and mini-coaching sessions?

If you answered “yes” to any of the above, then you are ready for the “Create A Passionate Life!” Call!

Each Thursday at 5:30pm PST/8:30pm EST, I host a complimentary call where you can interact LIVE with me and receive support for your challenges or simply have your thoughts on having a passionate life heard.

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If you can’t make the calls live, you are welcome to email me your most burning questions though this website “Contact” page or post them on my Facebook page, www.facebook.com/passiondoctor (or Click Here). If you want more anonymity in asking questions, let me know and I will only share your first name or initials during the call.

The calls WILL be recorded and posted as appropriate through my Passion & Purpose Podcast, so there is no excuse not to participate.

Enjoy the recording of the 3/10/16 call above and please give me feedback for improving the format and the calls.

Warmly,

Dr. Adam Sheck

P.S., Calls will also be available on iTunes as well through the Passion & Purpose Podcast

Do You Know Your Couple Sexual Style?

515QFm-O73L._SX373_BO1,204,203,200_When we begin a new relationship, we are usually in that “honeymoon” phase where our baseline sexuality is elevated for a good three to six months, perhaps a year at most. After that, we go back to our normal “sexual style”.

Dr. Barry McCarthy and his wife, Emily posit that there are four basic sexual styles, each with their own set of benefits and caveats. The four styles are:

  • Complementary
  • Traditional
  • Soul Mate
  • Emotionally Expressive

Complementary is the most common style. Each partner may initiate, refuse an advance or suggest an alternative. The benefits are [Read more…]

Create A Passionate Life Call 2/18/16

Are you seeking support for your challenges in love and work? Are you wanting more passion in your life, more connection to your life purpose? Would you benefit from some live feedback and mini-coaching sessions?

If you answered “yes” to any of the above, then you are ready for the “Create A Passionate Life!” Call!

Each Thursday at 5:30pm PST/8:30pm EST, I host a complimentary call where you can interact LIVE with me and receive support for your challenges or simply have your thoughts on having a passionate life heard.

createapassionatelifeflyer

If you can’t make the calls live, you are welcome to email me your most burning questions though this website “Contact” page or post them on my Facebook page, www.facebook.com/passiondoctor (or Click Here). If you want more anonymity in asking questions, let me know and I will only share your first name or initials during the call.

The calls WILL be recorded and posted as appropriate through my Passion & Purpose Podcast, so there is no excuse not to participate.

Enjoy the recording of the 2/18/16 call above and please give me feedback for improving the format and the calls.

Warmly,

Dr. Adam Sheck

P.S., Calls will also be available on iTunes as well through the Passion & Purpose Podcast

Finding Meaning In The Second Half Of Life

meaningafterfiftyThe focus of my professional life is to support others in creating more passion and purpose in their lives.  It is important to explore with my clients what this means to them. At the same time, for me to hold that space for them to explore, discover and uncover, it is also important for me to know what my passion and purpose is and what life means to me, personally.

AND, meaning, passion and purpose  change, grow and evolve over our lives.

As of the time of writing this article, I’ve been on the planet for almost six decades.  Although most of the time I still feel like I’m twenty-five, I also must admit that I’m “over the hump” and most likely have less time left than I’ve already lived.

To be honest, [Read more…]